Gabriel’s Gift

Posted on August 1, 2011 by Rebecca

Welcome to the Rebirth of Communicate Creativity!

Throughout August, I will be sharing the story of this blog’s roots.

I miss my man.

Due to a pile up of bad financial decisions, my husband has worked two jobs most of our marriage.

We had decided early on that he would bring home the bacon, and I would keep the home fires burning. My man worked long hours without complaint to make this vision happen.

He was tired. So was I. We fell into a routine of existence, and life passed us by.

Then we lost Gabriel.

After three healthy babies, I was sure we would soon be holding another when a pregnancy test confirmed my suspicions the day after Mother’s Day 2010. My husband joyfully shared the news as I anxiously awaited the fluttering that would begin telling me about the baby growing within the safety of my womb.

A week before Father’s Day I started spotting.

An ultrasound confirmed our fears.

No heartbeat.

My man took off from both jobs. He helped me walk when my legs wanted to fall. He held our children as they cried for the baby sibling we never held.

Many precious moments occurred during that time of intense mourning.

When my husband returned to work, we were far from better, but a wonderful change had taken place within our family.

Our children looked at their daddy as a hero again.

And I . . .

I remembered how much I miss my husband while he works all the time.

Something’s gotta change, I decided.

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Anonymous

Wow! That’s a pretty powerful opening to your August storytelling.

“He was tired. So was I. We fell into a routine of existence, and life passed us by.”
I can so relate to this. And to the reason behind his working so much; our family is in a similar place. That takes a lot of sacrifice from both of you.

Looking forward to hearing the whole story.

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Thanks, LoveInMarriage! I hope to be an encouragement as the story and this blog unfolds.

http://www.mommareads.com MommaRead

Ohhhh, it’s like the end of a book that leaves you hanging. I want to know what happened after you realized “Something’s gotta change”!

What happened next?

Sounds like it will hit right at home for me. I am looking forward to learning more about you!

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

I’ll tell you more on Thursday!

http://lambamongwolves.blogspot.com Bekah

I’m interested too! I’ve been meaning to get back to you after your comment on my blog couple months back (Dustin’s wife). Yes, a very small world, it is!!
We understand the pain of losing a baby. We lost one before getting pregnant with sweet Ruthie in Jan 2010. The Lord is good though, and we know our child is with Him now.

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Hi Bekah!

Welcome to my little corner of the online world.

I’m so sorry that you lost a baby too. Words fail . . .

But you are right. We can trust that God is taking care of our little ones. We told our older children that something was wrong with our baby’s body (possible genetic disorder such as Down syndrome), and so God decided to go ahead and give him a new and glorified body. We also taught our children to thank God for the short time that our baby was with us.

It still isn’t easy to swallow, but I think those things helped us and our children. Imagining Gabriel in the care of God . . . It’s a beautiful picture I want for all my children.

Blessings!

Marianne Clements

Rebecca,

That brought tears to my eyes! I’m sorry for your loss, but so thrilled to see how it brought your family together again. I pray that you and your family will see the fruit of your labor.

Ecc 3:13 (paraphrased) – Every man should eat and drink and enjoy the fruit of his labor. It is a gift from God.

Have a Victorious Day!

Marianne Clements

Victory Christian Coaching

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Thanks, Marianne! I am still amazed at how Gabriel’s short time with us impacted our family. We were so blessed by that little baby.

http://www.grammybookseries.com Laura Clifford

This is good – can’t wait for the next installment

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Be sure and check back in on Thursday!

http://www.in-the-zone.biz Kristen Mattison

I could feel the love for your husband and your family coming through your writing. I am so sorry for your loss, but your story is helping so many people. I too can’t wait for the next installment.

Have a blessed day!

Kristen Mattison

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

I hope my little blog becomes a blessing to many. Thank you for your kind words.

http://www.reflectivebiblestudy.com Cam

I can’t imagine what you have gone through. My only caution is to not forget what you currently have while the pain is drawing your focus to what could have been.

You have a poetic flair in your writing. Excellent work!

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

I know how blessed I am! Even though I couldn’t “keep” Gabriel, that little baby was a blessing as well. I thank God for my children and my husband every day.

Sandy

Having had three miscarriages, I can certainly relate. I’m so glad you have the support of your dh and family during your grief. Best wishes to you all.

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

I’m sorry about your losses, Sandy. I am very blessed. I hope you have similar blessings.

http://profiles.google.com/meredithlopez76 Meredith Lopez

I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine. Your kids are so lucky to have such a strong father – and such a loving mother. :HUGS: to you all.

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

And I am lucky to have such a husband and kids!

Losing a baby is really beyond words. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

http://adventure-some.com Matthew

I hadn’t heard from you in some time and wondered how everything was going. So sorry to hear about your loss, but so glad to hear about what you and your family have regained!

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

I have been meaning to email you. Thanks for checking in on me!

Sara Thompson (MW)

Welcome back Rebecca, hope things are going well for you and yours.

Come visit me –
http://questforxavier.blogspot.com/

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Thanks, Sara. I am feeling really blessed right now. I hope to pass the encouragement on!

Jamie

I’m very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain.

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

It was horrendous, but “better to have loved and lost . . .” I am thankful for each day I am able to love on my children.

Foster Connie

Sounds to me like you’ve lost a lot but you still have a lot.

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

You are exactly right! My blessings are many.

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Anonymous

Congratulations on your new blog! My DH has two jobs right now, too, and it’s a really hard stage of life. I remind myself regularly that it’s not permanent!

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Thanks for coming to check it out! Yes, we have to remind ourselves of the same thing and keep connected all the while.

Michael Derosa

Your misfortune seemed to open the doors for healing. How ironic, but true.

Blessings in your family life, Rebecca

Michael
http://www.passion-4-life.org

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Exactly, Michael! God truly can work good out of anything.

http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1429623083 Erin Casey

You’ve struck a chord with your words, Rebecca. I look forward to reading more about your story.

All the best,
Erin

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Thank you, Erin. I hope to be an encouragement!

http://www.trailreflections.com Chris Peek

Hi Rebecca,

I’m also a member of Blogging Your Passion. Thanks for sharing your heart. I can relate to this, as my wife was dealt a series of health issues and couldn’t work anymore. I’ve had to pick up the slack, and we’re finding new ways to creative income and working to become free agents. God bless you on your journey. What part of TN are you from? I grew up in Knoxville.

Chris

http://communicatecreativity.com/ Rebecca A. Burgener

Thanks for stopping by! I hope your wife finds healing.

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